Our knees hit the floor in many different ways. The most devastating is when it involves our hearts. There is no worse feeling in the world than loving someone and having them reject that love. Having your love rejected, a threat of divorce, separation and breakup or any form of losing the person you love feels a lot like losing them to death. You are experiencing the same emotions better known as grief. If it hurts to breathe right now and you are desperate for help, your knees are in the best place they can be. For it is in this position that we are most vulnerable and humble, if there's ever a time when we are embraced in God's loving arms it is right now when our hearts are shattered.

With loss of love comes shock, sorrow, anger and sometimes guilt. No amount of knowledge can prepare you for the loss of someone you love. Grief is the most intense and enduring emotion we can experience and there is no quick fix the only way out of this mist shrouded pain is through it. The good news is that this is the first ingredient you need for your miracle.

Step one is designed to help you stabilize yourself and prepare yourself for the journey towards your miracle. Part of stabilizing requires you to accept the fact that they are not with you presently, but in choosing to look to God for the answer you are now one step closer to a miracle. The one thing you can do is decide that you are going to give this problem to God, NOTHING is larger than God not even the situation you are dealing with. Take a picture of your lost love and place it in your Bible. (Surrender them to God) You can place it on the same page as your favorite scripture if you have one. There, it is wrapped in His wonderful promises that He will make this heart of your whole again.

Next you should put away all other reminders of your lost. Avoid situations, places, songs, etc. that you shared or that remind you of that person. By removing these things from constant sight you will be able to better focus on the miracle your seeking and what you need to accomplish it as well as The One who gives them instead of reminders of the pain and anguish associated with the separation.

Moving "Forward" vs. Moving "on"...

We are often told by well-wishers and friends to "forget about them and move on", a New Yorker would tell you to "forgettaboutit". Where is "on" and how does one get there? On is a scary place and promises to be lonely as well, there has to be more to love than "on". I have found that when we look to God for the answer to our prayer of restoration or true love he will move us "forward". Forward and On are two totally different places. "On" moves you into the future but rooted in pain, "forward" moves you into the future and gives you hope and best of all a new way of seeing things and ultimately a miracle...Forward changes life the way you know it. I'll take "forward" over "on" any day.

If you are believing in a miracle then you have the slightest bit of faith. Faith isn't something we get on our own we are blessed with it (Romans 12:3). When you cry out to God for help and you feel even the tiniest ray of hope that everything is going to be OK, that is faith. The seed has been planted. There are some pretty powerful promises that accompany faith, one of them is that "Faith is the substance of things hoped for" (Hebrews 11:1) Faith is knowing we have something even though we can't see it with our eyes, if you have felt the stirrings of faith deep in your soul then rejoice knowing that God, the author of faith, is basically letting you know that what you sincerely hope for is as good as yours. All you need to do is complete the journey He has mapped out for you.

Before you can begin your journey towards your miracle you have to stabilize or be on firm footing with your decision. A prayer for help even if your not sure how to pray will result in peace and strength you didn't know you had. Simply close you eyes and with the sincerest of heart whisper:

"Dear God, please help me get through today, please touch my heart and let me feel you close, give me peace Father as I embark on this journey to meet and know You."

The above is an excerpt  from "A Course in Heartbreak" - Other lessons in Step One of the course include:

A Course in Heartbreak is almost 200 pages of lessons designed to help you avoid the pitfalls of standing for a broken relationship. The Course is designed to guide you through the lessons God is teaching you without getting caught in the traps the devil sets for us. All material found on the Seven Steps pages are Copyright 2024 HeartbreakUniversity.org©. Copyright registration is on file with the United States Library of Congress. No material may be copied, shared or sold without the express written permission of the author and/or her agent.

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